During the last few years of my caregiving, while my mother-in-law and my parents were still alive, my son was still having major health issues, and I was working full time, I read about the term “sandwich generation.” Read more →


Each time I walked into Dad’s room in the nursing home, he would be rigid in bed, propped up on one elbow and slamming his other fist against his upturned palm. Pow! Pow! Pow! Over and over, he pounded fist against hand. Read more →


Dear Sad but Tense: I’m so sorry about what’s happened, not only to your dad but to your whole family. Generally, when I hear about ruined retirement plans, the letter comes from a spouse, so you provide an observant perspective that we can all learn from. Read more →


Perhaps the most challenging of all is that many caregivers are now trying to care for a parent or spouse in their homes with limited supplies – sometimes limited food choices – and almost no outside contact. These caregivers alternate between fear for their loved ones’ lives and worry about how their parent or spouse will survive if they, the caregiver, becomes sick. Read more →


In an effort to assist residents, staff and leaders at Caledonia Senior Living & Memory Care are requesting donations of used iPads to provide families and friends the opportunity to video chat. To be used exclusively for digitally connecting residents to their loved ones during these difficult times of required separation, donated iPads and tablets may be dropped off at Caledonia Senior Living & Memory Care’s offices, where they will be sanitized thoroughly before use. Read more →


...He was struggling to breathe, yet pleaded with me to not insert the breathing tube and to let him die. The cardiologist was scared to do it. With a voice coming from above saying, “Let My People Go!” I honored the man’s wishes. I tremble every time I read this passage. Read more →


“We’d love it if you’d write a handwritten letter today to support what we do. Please note that we do not accept emailed or typed letters.” They go on to say that at this point, “Right now, our biggest need as an organization Read more →


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Dear LH: Your mother is fortunate to have you to watch over her care. Like you, I think that any older adult is likely to feel abandoned if the family moves them to a new living environment and then just leaves without visiting for two weeks. Additionally, people like your mom need an advocate and that advocate must be an obvious, though friendly, presence from the beginning. Read more →


It makes sense that she wants to take charge of her own future so she can determine how much more she wants to continue to fight for what sounds like a decreasing quality of life. Your mom’s correct in that a do not resuscitate order is not always enough when it comes to end-of-life Read more →