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It’s true that I hate the thought of losing mom, but it’s unlike her to give up like this! tougher! What can I do to make her see that she needs to keep fighting? – BV Read more →


During the last few years of my caregiving, while my mother-in-law and my parents were still alive, my son was still having major health issues, and I was working full time, I read about the term “sandwich generation.” Read more →


During the last few years of my caregiving, while my mother-in-law and my parents were still alive, my son was still having major health issues, and I was working full time, I read about the term “sandwich generation.” Read more →


I told her what has formed, over a period of time, my personal rule on this very common problem. Read more →


Nearly everyone involved in caring for aging loved ones is experiencing grief. Often, however, we don't identify it as grief. We have a parent who used to be strong and capable who begins to ask for a little assistance. No big deal, right? We're happy to help. Read more →


No one needs to die in pain. That is what the social worker told me as I signed the papers that would put my father on hospice care. That is the mantra of hospice, and it became my mantra as well. I had no choice but to believe it since my dad had suffered so much. Read more →


Dear LR: You sound like a caring daughter who is concerned about all aspects of her mom’s care which is wonderful. Granted, the quality of her care, in general, is going to be your major concern Read more →


If ever there’s a group of people who suffer deeply from unearned guilt it’s caregivers. Whether you’re the parent of a vulnerable adult, an adult child of aging parents or the spouse of a vulnerable adult, you are bound to have your “if only” times where you are sucked into the quicksand of guilt. Read more →


Being a caregiver can affect our marriages, our parenting, and our employment as well as other areas of our lives. We often are drawn into caregiving by love and compassion for our sick parents or spouse and our need to be there to support them. Read more →